Thursday, 4 February 2016

2. FAMILY IN THE CAODAI NEW LAW


I. A CONCEPT OF THE FAMILY
The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.
GEORGE SANTAYANA
(Spanish philosopher, 1863-1952)
Nations past and present admit that the family plays an important role in society. In trouble times, in order to reestablish security and order in society, people always emphasize the solution of consolidating the family because the family itself is the basis of society. Therefore, after the Second World War, the Universal Declaration of Human Rights adopted by the UN General Assembly on 10 December 1948 defines, “The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the state.” [Article 16(3)]
The family is a unit of society, constituting and greatly affecting society. Indeed, citizens who fulfil their duties towards the motherland, compatriots, and fellow-creatures are always those who have enjoyed a good education from their families. Where does the way of man come from? Caodai teaching answers, “The way of man comes from the family.” [1]
Criminologists as well as experts on social evils realize that most offenders and those who are regarded as worrying burdens of society have ever suffered misfortune in their childhood: They lacked a family; they grew up in troubled families; their parents lacked love for the children and also faithful love between spouses… Therefore, George Iain Duncan Smith (born in 1954), the UK Secretary of State for Work and Pensions, once said, “Seven out of ten offenders come from broken homes…”.[2]
Those unfortunate children can sing the blues, as Clarence Darrow (1857-1938), American lawyer, once said, “The first half of our lives is ruined by our parents...”
According to Vietnamese tradition, in any situation, the family is always the last citadel or fortress which is to be thoroughly respected and resolutely protected.
The traditional ethics of Vietnamese people always attaches special importance to strengthening the family foundation, defining the authority of the family head, and teaching every member to harmonize individual interests with the common ones of the whole family.
Having the same idea, Pope John Paul II (Polish, 1920-2005) said, “To maintain a joyful family requires much from both the parents and the children. Each member of the family has to become, in a special way, the servant of the others.”
The ideal of all Vietnamese families is how to achieve and maintain harmony and homogeneity; thus, filial piety and fraternal duty are perennial values of ethics respected by Vietnamese families. Filial piety means loving, respecting, and supporting one’s parents. Fraternal duty means loving one’s siblings, and respecting elderly family members. Belonging to Confucian ethics, these two virtues are mentioned in Confucius’ Analects (1:6) as follows: “A youth, when at home, should be filial, and, abroad, respectful to his elders.” [3]
According to Vietnamese tradition, whenever troubles arise in a family due to conflict of interests amongst individuals, all family members should be conscious that they themselves are to satisfactorily handle problems by “washing their soiled linen at home”, absolutely avoiding any lawsuit so as not to hurt blood relationship or “air their dirty laundry in public”; consequently, they will not lose their family honour or bring humiliation upon themselves.
The above words mean that every family trouble should always be dealt with on basis of sentiment rather than reason, although the reason might have justice. Sympathizing with this subtle choice, one will easily agree with what Reinhold Niebuhr (American theological professor, 1892-1971) once said, “Family life is too intimate to be preserved by the spirit of justice. It can be sustained by a spirit of love which goes beyond justice.”
HUỆ KHẢI



[1] Spiritual message by His Holiness Như Ý Đạo Thoàn Chơn Nhơn, at Vĩnh Nguyên Temple (Long An village, Cần Giuộc district, Long An province), 05 January 1965.
[2]Quoted at http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/8109184/Children-from-broken-homes-nine-times-more-likely-to-commit-crimes.html. (Accessed on 06 August 2014.)
[3] 弟子入則孝, 出則悌. (論語, 學而). James Legge trans., 1893.